I have been thinking about this post for a little while now. But a question I have is "How soon can one date someone else after being dumped?" We all know my situation from 2 months ago. I dated for three months.
"The Situation" --not referring to that reality star from Jersey Shore--
In my case I want to be classy about things. It all depends on if you are the dumper or dumpie in most cases. What do you think? Does the Dumpie have a right to date first when the reason for the dumping is that of 'he just isn't that into you'? and if so why does the dumpie have that right? Or is it that the girl is always right? Because if any of us dumps a guy its for good reasons usually. Either the guy is a jerk for breaking up with you or he is a jerk and that's why you break up with him.
What I am asking is what do I do in my case? A friend from LA has been taking the initiative for me to think of him as more than a friend. But my problem is that I dated someone two months ago and think that it is socially unacceptable to like someone that soon. I mean he has worked really hard for my attention and I'm nervous that I could be possibly missing out on a great guy do to this situation. But at the same time I do not want to hurt the guy who dumped me by dating someone, much less even liking someone so soon!
Ladies of the BBB help!!
6 comments:
Short answer: I say you're in the clear. Go for it! It sounds like you really do like this guy, and if you find a good one I don't think you should miss out on a good chance. I don't really have a good reason for why it's not too soon for you, but I think that's because there's no universal rule for that. It all depends on how long your previous relationship was, how serious it was, and how it ended (and probably some more things I can't think of right now). Bottom line: you can't keep looking back. If YOU feel a sense of closure from your previous relationship, then I think you are free to move on. I mean, it's not your fault that some amazing guy realizes you're amazing too! ;) (I think my short answer grew into a longer one, haha).
you're sweet to consider andrew's feelings...but...
...you don't lose the aforementioned quality if you pursue this new relationship.
and to piggyback/dovetail/zebra cake rachel's comment: andrew broke up with you.
LA loves you, and chances are, the ones who would make a scene about this are "sages" who have no business making such a scene.
let's get chick-fil-a as soon as you arrive out here.
I'd say, if you want the time to process this situation for your own reasons, then it's so important to take that time...but if you're only taking it to prevent hurting an ex then forget about it. Us nice girls (I refuse to associate with the "bitches" of the playground) are so good at trying to protect guys' feelings, even when we are the ones whose feelings got hurt! This has got to stop. We've got enough crap to think about.
And remember, If this guy you're potentially interested in is indeed interested in you, he will respect whatever time you need for your own sake.
Ps. Chick-fil-a. Amen.
one more week ladies.... and I will need a couch to stay on. :)
And Thank you all! BBB unite!
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